Recent images from the news media have drawn my attention to women’s dress but before I explain what bothers me, let me make some things clear from the start:
- I am a woman. I am not a prude.
- I do not blame women for being assaulted if they are
wearing skimpy clothing. It is the man’s fault for not controlling himself.
- I also feel women should dress sexy in appropriate
settings if they wish. Show some cleavage and strut your stuff. Have fun!
- I have experienced beaches in France and have no problem
with topless women (or men) on the beach.
- I am not a fan of shaming women. There has been too much
of that throughout history.
I do, however, have a problem with expectations concerning women’s dress in today’s professional world.
For example, why do women continue to wear tortuous footwear
such as pointy toes, high heels and stilettos? Men say it is sexy and women say
it makes them feel sexy. A 2015 study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior concluded that the higher the heel, the
more attention men paid to women. (1) Some women say it makes them feel and look
more powerful. Some say it helps them advance in their careers. Really?
When I was 12-years-old, my mother told me I was finally old
enough to wear high heels. I was excited; I had come of age! This was a big
deal for me—until I started wearing pointy shoes with high heels and realized
that it wasn’t all it was chalked up to be. Although it was uncomfortable, as a
teen, I followed female fashion and was always eager to kick off my shoes as
soon as I could. It has been more than 50 years since I’ve attempted to wear
really high heels and, although I’m in my 70’s now, my feet look rather young.
I’ve never had bunions, hammertoes, metatarsalgia or pump bump—conditions resulting
from fashionable footwear. Personally, I am not a masochist.
Podiatrist Michael Liebow claimed to the Washington Post, “Women will wear their
high-heeled shoes until their feet are bloody stumps.” (2) In a 2014 study, the
American Podiatric Association found that 38 percent of women reported they
would wear shoes they liked even if they were uncomfortable. And 71 percent
said they have foot problems related to high heels. (3)
In 2018, we are participating in a modern version of the
ancient Chinese tradition of foot binding, the result of societal pressure. "The practice of binding feet was not only considered beautiful, it
was considered necessary in order to get married and to have a better
life." (4) Does this sound familiar to the claim today that high heels
are sexy and help women to succeed? We may not bind feet but we certainly
shackle women’s ability to be pain free and to move with the same ease as men.
Television screen shot of CNN |
I also wonder why women feel obligated to wear dresses and
skirts for state events. Notice on television, when women sit while wearing skirts
and dresses, they wind up constantly tugging at their clothing to pull it down. It is
okay in an entertainment situation but not in professional situations. Look at
the image of Sarah Sanders in her “professional” situation, showing most of her
thigh. Can you imagine a man in a professional situation unbuttoning his shirt
so you can see his chest hair? Of course not! It would be too undignified. And
it is too undignified for a professional woman to expose herself as Sarah did
in her press conference setting. Hillary Clinton has received a lot of flak
about her pants suits but she’s one of the few serious women in politics who
consistently goes against the “expectation” that women should wear skirts and
dresses. And she doesn’t wear stilettos either. Good for her! Some might argue
that professional men are expected to wear a tie. Okay, but wearing a tie does
not demean or damage health.
Women may “hold up half the sky” but we are not yet represented
equally in professional and government positions. Why do women continue to
dress according to “expectations” even at the expense of our health, dignity
and freedom? Social expectations can subjugate women. When it comes to dress in
the professional world, women make themselves victims. We will never hold up
half the sky professionally until we quit bowing to men’s dress expectations.
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Credit Erin
Schaff for The New York Times https://www.nytimes.com/2018/04/24/style/melania-trump-white-hat.html
(2) https://www.washingtonpost.com/national/health-science/high-heeled-shoes-may-look-good-but-theyre-bad-for-your-feet/2013/06/17/54945c14-c22d-11e2-914f-a7aba60512a7_story.html?noredirect=on&utm_term=.9f818f0275f2
(2) https://www.washingtonpost.com/national/health-science/high-heeled-shoes-may-look-good-but-theyre-bad-for-your-feet/2013/06/17/54945c14-c22d-11e2-914f-a7aba60512a7_story.html?noredirect=on&utm_term=.9f818f0275f2
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“Foot-binding
is said to have been inspired by a tenth-century court dancer named Yao Niang
who bound her feet into the shape of a new moon. She entranced Emperor Li Yu by
dancing on her toes inside a six-foot golden lotus festooned with ribbons and
precious stones. In addition to altering the shape of the foot, the practice
also produced a particular sort of gait that relied on the thigh and buttock
muscles for support. From the start, foot-binding was imbued with erotic
overtones. Gradually, other court ladies—with money, time and a void to
fill—took up foot-binding, making it a status symbol among the elite.”